How Do I Know If I Married the Right Person? (Biblical Principles)
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Have you ever found yourself wondering, "Did I marry the right person?" Maybe you're sitting in the quiet of your living room, the weight of life pressing down, and you're asking God for reassurance. If that's you today, I want you to know you are not alone. So many of us, at different seasons of marriage, have whispered that question to the Lord.
The beautiful thing is, God’s Word does not leave us without guidance. Let’s walk through this together.
1. Marriage Is a Covenant, Not a Contract
First, it’s important to remember: Marriage isn’t about finding the perfect person — it’s about keeping the covenant you made before God.
"Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." — Matthew 19:6 (KJV)
Marriage is about becoming one flesh. It's a holy covenant sealed by God, not just a contract based on emotions, circumstances, or convenience. When you said "I do", you weren’t just making a promise to your spouse — you made a promise to God.
Truth moment: Feelings will come and go. Some days you will "feel" madly in love; other days, you may feel distant. But God's design for marriage is based on commitment, not constant butterflies.
2. Are You Growing Together Spiritually?
Another way to check if you're in the marriage God wants you to nurture is to ask: Are we growing in Christ together?
"Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend." — Proverbs 27:17 (KJV)
Marriage is meant to sharpen both of you. It's not just about happiness, it’s about holiness. Are you encouraging each other to pray, read the Word, serve others, and seek God's will? Growth may not always be easy — iron sharpening iron sometimes causes sparks — but that sharpening is a good thing.
If you're both drawing closer to God (even slowly, even imperfectly), that's a sign you're exactly where you're supposed to be.
3. Love Is a Daily Choice
Our culture teaches that love is mostly about feelings. God's Word teaches that love is an action and a daily choice.
"Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up..." — 1 Corinthians 13:4 (KJV)
Real love suffers long. Real love is kind even when you don’t feel like it. Real love stays humble.
The Bible’s definition of love reminds us that marriage is not about how your spouse makes you feel all the time — it’s about how you choose to love even on hard days.
4. God Can Work Through Imperfect Marriages
Maybe you're thinking, "But our marriage isn’t perfect!" Friend, hear me — no marriage is.
"My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness." — 2 Corinthians 12:9 (KJV)
Sometimes God does His greatest work through brokenness. Maybe your marriage isn't about finding "the right person" maybe it's about becoming the right spouse. Maybe it's about allowing God to strengthen what feels weak.
If you invite Jesus into the center of your marriage, He can redeem, restore, and renew it no matter what struggles you've faced.
Instead of asking, "Did I marry the right person?", start asking, "How can I become the right partner in Christ?"
Marriage isn't about perfection — it's about two imperfect people clinging to a perfect God.
When you stand on God's promises, pursue spiritual growth, choose love daily, and lean into His grace, you’ll see:
You are in the perfect place for God to bless your marriage.
Trust Him. Hold tight. Keep building. He’s not finished yet.
-DiaryofAChristianWife
How Do I Know If I Married the Right Person? (Biblical Principles)
